Matthew Robert Wrenn

i was looking thur the web site's and run upon yours Matthew, you see i also lost my son in june 2008, he was my life so i know how your mom feels, it's something no mom should have to do. i read where you like to hunt Roger did to, he was pro at it maybe you could look him up and you could share story's he would love that. his name is Roger Gosnell . i wanted to say to your mom how sorry i am and hope we can live thur this, these websites help because we can share our pain i am so sorry about your friend to, so if you do see Roger tell him i love him and to wait for me.              GOD BLESS YOU ALL

So heart wrenching......... Matthew your Mom stopped by my Tammy's website and left a condelence and from your heart note on the homepage of this beautiful website - it showed how proud of her you are - after reading her condelence I can totally understand why you would be........ PLEASE give my daughter Tammy a huge hug and kiss for me..... I so miss her and thank you both for connecting your Mom and me... take care, Debbie

I am so sorry for your loss of Matthew and Justin.  I to am a mother of Chance Wilcox, who lost his life March 24, 2008 in auto accident.  I know your pain and my heart goes out to you and all of your family and his friends.  We must know we will see our son's again one day in heaven.  Know they are with God and safe from harm. May your heart find peace one day at a time.

 

God Bless

            

 

 

 

Hey little man, It's me.  This past weekend was Easter and I don't know how or why, but it was the hardest holiday of all.  Everywhere I looked you were there and you were on my mind so bad.  It was good things of course but it's good things I will never get to experience with you again.  Buddy, I need you really bad right now.  This is just so hard on me here lately that I am having a really hard time functioning just day to day.  I feel like everything is crumbling beneath me.  I want to talk to you and hold you and just hear you laugh. I want to go 4-wheeler rinding and jump on the back of your motorcycle.  Your the only person I've ever trusted on a motorcycle.  Words can't even express how I am feeling right now.  I can't even start to try to explain it.  I get so mad and angry and dont know what exactly I'm angry at.  I can't stand to see people laughing and having a good time because it makes me so mad.  I get mad because I can't do that and I want to but I don't want to do anything without you.  Nothing makes much sense right now.  My moods are erractic and I can see you laughing at me up there thinking that your sister has lost her mind.  I feel like I have but really I have just lost  a huge part of my life very tragically and I don't know how to cope with that.  Nothing seems to be easy to cope with right now.  Things I would usually laugh at and just toss over my shoulder are getting to me.  I can't quit crying and then the next minute I'm ready to punch someones lights out.  Yep, your thinking I'm crazy.  Help me little man and everyone else too.  I know no one is coping right.  I just wanted to vent to you for a few.  I want to laugh and remember the good times.  I want to be your old lil sis again.  I know nothing will ever be the same but I need help buddy.  Keep me in your arms.  I love you so much.  Miss you even more if that is possible. 

Dear Sandy,

I feel so bad for you and your family. It takes a very long time to begin to think you can ever live a normal life again. I lost my daughter 3 years, 5 months, and 17 days ago. She also died in a tragic car accident and died on impact. She left behind a little boy who turned three years old, three weeks after her death. He was her life and she was his.

I have custody of her son, but believe me it wasn't easy. It took two and a half years to get custody of Jeremy. His father is alive...but it's a long story...let's just say my daughter wasn't with him after her son turned 1 year old. Laws are suppose to protect the innocent, but Mothers and Grandmother's didn't write the laws so you can only imagine the rough ride we had.

When Angie died, I thought I was going to die also. She was my only daughter and I have two sons, one younger than her and one older. Angie was such a big part of my life. She was my friend as much as my daughter. My heart felt there was a long tunnel with a big black hole at the bottom and I was sinking into it but not getting any closer to her. It hurt. Some times I would break down and cry and I really thought that was going to be the end. The pain was unbearable.

After her first year of passing, I thought okay I should be able to do this now. I have been through ever holdiay or family events and I made it, so now I thought it would be a lot easier. Boy I don't want to discourage you but the second year was worse. The first year I went through everything in numbness, but the second I had to do everything in reality.

It was towards the end of the second year that I could honesty say, that I begin to feel normal and able to par take in things in life. Being alone was a comfort to me. Having my husband and grandson with me all the time, sure did help. We went through this together.

Everyone is different, and I think the more love you have for God, the easier it makes it. The site also helped because I felt I was with people who were going through the same thing as me and understood my pain, hurt, and anger. THE WHY's I had so many of them.

I know your son and his friend Justin has only been gone four months, so I can feel for you and your family. Let it be a comfort that Robert had his friend and Jesus holding each of his hands leading him into the next journey of his life.

I remember reading some sites, as you must and wonder how can some of these families sound so positive and up lifted and I felt like dieing. I could tell that they loved their child as much as I loved mine...but why could they cope. I wrote and expressed myself with them. The answer was "TIME" and how true it is. Time does help big time. They didn't love their child any less than the day they died...they just learned to cope and accept.

Everything will happen naturally for you just like it has for many of us. Let God be your savior and pray for strength, it helps. Anytime you need someone to chat with you can e-mail me at polopool@yahoo.ca Angie has two sites www.angie-robert.memory-of.com and www.angie-robert.last-memories.com

If  you go back to the beginning of Angie's site on the memory-of site and read her condolences you will probably see yourself in my words. We're mother's and this isn't fair. We should have gone before our child. We lived our life much longer than them. But like I said before we didn't write the laws, we only have to live by them. Whether they're God's law or man's law!

Bless you

Donna

Matt,

 

I know we didn't really get to see or talk to each other very much for the last couple of years, but I want you to know that you are truly missed and thought of each and every day.  You never had a bad word to say about anyone or anything and always had a smile on your face.  We love you and are sure gonna miss ya big guy...